Complete Yourself

I had a conversation with one of my girlfriends a few weeks ago and it steered towards relationships and being single. I began to tell her that I think many women and many of our mutual friends are in pursuit to find someone that completes them and that if they're not in a relationship than they have no happiness or identity.

I told her how crazy this was and how sad, pathetic and shameful it is for some of these women to think like that. I told her do these women really think that another person is going to make them feel better about themselves and worthwhile... and even if this is so, what if it doesn't work out? Do you go back to your self-loathing state, where you consider yourself to be incomplete?

By no means am I saying that there aren't compatible partners out there that enrich one anothers' lives, but how can someone enrich your life if your dependency of happiness and self-worth is being with someone else.

I told my friend that a person should complete themselves 100% and be happy with who they are as a person and then he or she will truly be complete and content with themselves. Without truly loving yourself can you really expect someone else to do that for you? I think once you do that, your self-confidence will skyrocket and your relationships, not just intimate ones, but all of them will blossom into more than you could have ever of expected.